“This sky where we live is no place to lose your wings so love, love, love.” ~ Hafiz
What stirs inside you when you see that word? For such a small word, it holds unparalleled impact! People sing about it, pray for it, fight wars over it, long for it, and, when it is missing, weep unabashedly for it.
Is there anything more important than love?
Yet, despite their best intentions, couples often feel like they are growing apart, falling out of love, or like they are not on the same page. Other couples describe their relationship as passion-less and void of excitement. Sometimes relationships feel like a constant battle on an emotional level as well as a pragmatic one – disputes over money, kids, parenting, responsibilities, sex, rules and decision-making are common. Other times it is due to challenges in finding healthy boundaries, respect or trust.
When we are in the middle of these or other kinds of relationship struggles, it is common to feel stuck, anxious, hopeless and confused with no ability to ‘fix’ the problem.
How much impact do our primary relationships have on our mental, physical and emotional health? People in healthy and thriving relationships with secure bonds are better able to problem solve in an anxiety producing environment, can better function in the face of conflict, feel more empowered in the world, are more open to new information, are more confident and achieve their goals with more effectiveness.
Feeling closely connected to our loved ones is essential to our physical health. When you are in a fulfilling relationship, you are more likely to have a healthy heart (of all the organs!). Research has found that secure, close and loving relationships help to prevent congestive heart failure, angina, high blood pressure, heart attacks, strokes, and a depressed immune system as well as lowering the levels of the stress hormone cortisol. (Hold Me Tight. Little Brown, 2008 Dr. Sue Johnson)
Relationship counselling offers a clear way out of the ‘stuckness’. In the middle of your struggles, facing one another through counselling is very brave work! This is the perfect time for creating an even closer bond by cultivating trust, awareness, openness, and an experience of stepping authentically closer to one another. These experiences are the fertile ground for a thriving, loving and long-lasting relationship that can support the growth of our sense of wholeness and fulfillment in the world.
In working with couples, I help partners ally with one another by looking at relationship patterns and problems together, rather than seeing themselves, or the other, as the problem. In working with singles (or one partner only), I help you explore your inner landscape as well as the places you are ‘stuck’ in relationships with others.
I have extensive expertise in one of the most researched and highly effective relationship counselling approaches in the world: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples. This means I have a well-researched understanding of the needs of adults in romantic/love relationships and what is known about helping couples have healthy, long-lasting relationships.
We work collaboratively to create new ways of being and interacting in relationships that are healthy, promote growth and advancement, and entirely sustainable.
“As a therapist, Sarah has a very refined sense of empathy and is able to create the safety that all of us need to face our issues and move into change. Sarah’s ability to see people’s strengths helps them find these strengths in themselves.” – Dr. Sue Johnson, Phd, co-founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, and author of Hold Me Tight & Love Sense.
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