Counselling Approach

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With a wide range of expertise from the scientific to the artistic, my specialty lies in finding the unique approach and/or combination of approaches that is just right for you.

Throughout all the approaches I use, I come from a compassionate, holistic, systemic and transpersonal perspective. I work creatively and collaboratively with individuals, couples and groups to promote healthy growth in relationships, and in the realms of mind, body and spirit.

I also very much believe that the way we grow is through experience. Approaching therapy in this way means that although we may discuss the past and the future, we do much of the therapeutic work in the ‘here and now’.

We all struggle in one way or other. And…we all need, and deserve, support in the middle of our struggles.

The important thing is not whether we struggle but rather, what our relationship is with the struggle, as well as our relationship with ourselves, in the middle of it.

My approach is designed to support alignment with hope, compassion, and genuine growth in the middle of whatever struggle you might find yourself in.

My areas of specialty include:

Couples Counselling

Conscious Parenting

Grief & Loss Counselling

Destiny Counselling (Life Purpose)

 

The following is a description of some of the perspectives I may draw upon over the course of therapy. The work I do is also intuitive, so is not limited to what you see here, nor will every session include every aspect listed.

Humanistic/Holistic

I operate from the stance that we each have within us a natural potential that we can actualize and through which we can find meaning. I see people as whole human beings with all the resources they need and the intent then is to create a climate that is growth-producing, allowing clients to access and experience their own wholeness.

Transpersonal

The transpersonal perspective is a non-religious spiritual perspective that transcends the individual human struggle to incorporate a wider frame of reference. It operates from the standpoint that everything affects everything else. This is good news. It means that, despite how alone we might feel, we indeed never truly are as we are all interconnected. As a transpersonal therapist, I see human beings as having a force inside of us that is continually being called on to expand and grow. My work with clients then is to align with this force for growth and to help water that seed.

 “The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science.” ~ Albert Einstein

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples 

An innovative and experiential approach to relationships. Based on what is often referred to as the “Science of Love”, this empirically validated therapeutic method helps couples in distress who are seeking a closer relationship, anchored in love.

It offers a map to the landscape of Love – a landscape we have long assumed a mystery. Couples often wonder why, despite their best intentions, they “grow apart”, or “fall out of love” or feel like they “just aren’t on the same page”. The map that EFT provides unravels these mysteries and offers ways out of distress patterns. This form of therapy includes a series of steps and stages, designed to bring about trust, awareness, openness and the experience of stepping authentically closer to one another. 

Created in the 1980’s by Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Les Greenberg, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is based largely on the findings of John Bolby’s research on Attachment Theory. It takes the principles of this theory and focuses on strengthening the emotional bond between partners by tuning into the key moments that make up our relationship, to bring about lasting change.

Research on Effectiveness: Research studies find that 7 out of 10 couples are no longer distressed after 8-20 sessions, with 9 out of 10 experiencing significant improvement. Follow-up studies show that these changes are stable, even in couples who were deemed at risk for divorce.

Research also finds evidence that this form of therapy reduces symptoms of depression, obsessive-compulsive symptoms, internal hostility, and eating disorders.

For more information, please visit http://www.iceeft.com/

Systemic

Systems theory first originated in biology in the 1920s in order to explain the interrelatedness of organisms in ecosystems. Later Murray Bowen and Virginia Satir brought the theory into human dynamics. Essentially, this theory says that people do not operate in isolation, but rather in relationship. This means no one person can ever be the ‘problem’, but certainly the dynamics of the family and their interactions can be dysfunctional in nature. Bringing awareness to these relationship patterns and dynamics is the key in understanding ways in which the family system views the world and its components. Often this awareness can shed light on how we are operating inside our current dilemma. As well, it helps us release the notion that our problems exist in isolation, which in turn can bring empowerment and a map for how to bring about change from the inside out.

Experiential ~ Gestalt

Founded in the 1940’s by Fritz and Laura Perls, Gestalt Therapy is a dynamic experiential approach to the psyche. The focus is on the present moment, the ‘here and now’ of the current experience in order to bring a sense of a unified whole to the client. The emphasis is on the process, which becomes much like peeling an onion, where we bring awareness and integration to different layers and parts of self.

NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)

NLP suggests it is not ‘reality’ that determines our behaviour, but our perceptions of reality. It also suggests that life and our minds are systemic processes: nothing exists in a vacuum or on its own.  Instead of attempting to encourage clients toward any kind of ‘correct’ map of life and the universe, the goal is actually to help cultivate the richest map possible that is in harmony with the systemic nature of humans and the world. The focus is on helping clients create and develop as many available choices as possible as well as the wisdom to bring a multitude of perspectives to their experiences.

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